{"id":666,"date":"2019-08-07T09:14:57","date_gmt":"2019-08-07T16:14:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/drsarahsalzman.com\/?p=666"},"modified":"2019-09-21T11:40:06","modified_gmt":"2019-09-21T18:40:06","slug":"how-to-stop-fighting-with-your-partner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/drsarahsalzman.com\/how-to-stop-fighting-with-your-partner\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Stop Fighting with Your Partner"},"content":{"rendered":"

Remember the last time you had a really good conversation with your partner, how wonderful and safe it felt? <\/span> <\/span><\/p>\n

Now, remember a time where the conversation turned into a conflict<\/span>,<\/span> where the train had left the station and there was no coming back. We\u2019ve all been there in our relationships, and it\u2019s not fun. In fact, when you\u2019re in the thick of a really bad fight, it can feel like the world is ending.<\/span> <\/span><\/p>\n

There\u2019s that moment before a fight when everything shifts. There’s that moment where you shift from calm communication to conflict. You can feel the difference in your body. <\/span>R<\/span>emember how it feels when you feel the shift in that moment<\/span>?<\/span> <\/span><\/p>\n

But this good news is, there are other moments when you can choose to shift again. But it\u2019s hard to do when you\u2019re angry, hurt, and upset. The best thing to do in that moment is to get some distance so you can come back to a calmer mind and a more balanced perspective. <\/span> <\/span><\/p>\n

Here\u2019s a quick tip for the next time you get in a fight or even feel that shift from communication to conflict.<\/span> <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Remember the last time you had a really good conversation with your partner, how wonderful and safe it felt? <\/p>\n

Now, remember a time where the conversation turned into a conflict, where the train had left the station and there was no coming back. We\u2019ve all been there in our relationships, and it\u2019s not fun. In fact, when you\u2019re in the thick of a really bad fight, it can feel like the world is ending. <\/p>\n

There\u2019s that moment before a fight when everything shifts. There’s that moment where you shift from calm communication to conflict. You can feel the difference in your body. Remember how it feels when you feel the shift in that moment? <\/p>\n

But this good news is, there are other moments when you can choose to shift again. But it\u2019s hard to do when you\u2019re angry, hurt, and upset. The best thing to do in that moment is to get some distance so you can come back to a calmer mind and a more balanced perspective. <\/p>\n

Here\u2019s a quick tip for the next time you get in a fight or even feel that shift from communication to conflict. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":704,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[14,29],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\nHow to Stop Fighting with Your Partner - Dr. Sarah Salzman | Couples Psychologist<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/drsarahsalzman.com\/how-to-stop-fighting-with-your-partner\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"How to Stop Fighting with Your Partner - Dr. Sarah Salzman | Couples Psychologist\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Remember the last time you had a really good conversation with your partner, how wonderful and safe it felt? 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